- Me poies alles ennoies sunh8ws tautizetai h ennoia ths "agaphs" ston nou diaforetikwn atomwn? Giati sumbainei auto? Pws 8ewrei o ka8enas mas oti mia agaph "einai alh8inh", "einai xwris antapokrish", "kruvei apath", "eksuphretei sumferonta", "(den) exei mellon", "ufistatai apo sunh8eia", "(den) 8a anteksei ston xrono", "einai katanagkastikh", "moiazei me paramu8i"?
- Giati antidroun diaforetika oi goneis mas, oi suggeneis mas, ta aderfia mas kai oi filoi mas sthn akroash tou gegonotos oti agaphsame kapoion? Giati diaferei ana atomo h antidrash kai pou pragmatika ofeiletai? Gia poion logo sumbainei auto? Me poion tropo mporoume na thn elegksoume, h' estw na thn provlepsoume?
[Parakatw prokeite na enapo8esw thn prwsopikh mou apopsh emmesws, thn opoia 8a prospa8hsw na parousiasw oso to dunaton pio antikeimenhka, sumperilamvanontas oles tis optikes gwneies.]
- Arxika, gia na eimaste se 8esh na anarwti8oume alla kai na ereutisoume ta ba8utera aitia ths diaforetikothtas ths antidrashs sthn akroash ths sunapsews mias sxeshs, prepei na paradextoume oti to ka8e atomo diaferei ais8hta, gia poikilous logous, ara kata sunepeia, antimetwpizei me diaforetiko tropo kapoia katasthsh, kapoio neo gegonos, kapoio provlhma kai alla. Ara prokuptei oti diaforetika antimetwpizei kai thn anakoinwsh h' suneiditopoihsh ths agaphs sthn zwh tou h' kapoiou allou atomou. Poikiloi paragontes ephreazoun thn kritikh kai ton xarakthrismo kapoias agaphs ana atomo. Shmantikoteroi apo autous einai: h hlikia tou atomou, o xarakthras pou exei anaptuksei, ta ere8ismata pou exei dextei (apo oikogeneia, filous kai alla), h proswpikh h' h "pa8htikh" peira pou exei apokthsei (empeiria dikia tou h' apo ta legomena kapoiou allou atomou), to koinoniko perivallon tou, h epoxh kai to meros opou zei, h apopsh tou gia thn zwh (aisiodoksh h' apaisiodoksh kai alla). Epeishs prepei na dextoume oti, afou ka8e atomo einai diaforetiko, anaptussei kai diafoterikou eidous erwtikes sxeseis. Dhladh uparxoun atoma pou prothmoun na sunaptoun sxeseis mikrhs xronikhs diarkeias, kapoia alla pou prothmoun tis sxeseis me oso to dunaton megaluterh dunath xronikh diarkeia, kapoia alla pou sunaptoun sxeseis apla gia na anakoinwnoun oti einai desmeumenoi opws kai kapoia alla atoma pou 8eloun oposdhpote na sunapsoun sxesh epeidh to prostazei h moda kai o filikos periguros, h tash diaforopoihshs tous apo to sunolo kai h tash "provolhs" tous, h' apla, epeidh uparxei fovos apokleismou h' stigmatismou apo thn koinwnia sthn opoia anoikoun. Epeishs, uparxoun kapoies kathgories atomwn pou sunaptoun erwtikh sxesh apokleisthka kai mono gia thn sarkikh euaxisthsh adiaforwntas gia tis epiptwseis kai to kostos auths, kapoies alles oi opoies upostirhzoun oti prothmoun na allazoun suxna ta atoma pou epilegoun erwtika gia logous "empeirias" h' epeidh "variountai grhgora" h' apla gia anagkh kapoias "enasxolishs", kapoies alles pou anti8eta niw8oun thn apoluth anagkh na desmeutoun gia thn upoloiph zwh tous me ena apokleisthka atomo. Epipros8etws, uparxoun atoma ta opoia agapoun alla atoma me olo tous to "einai", dhladh pou dinontai oloklhrwtika se mia sxesh, me opoiodhpote kostos ponou kai riskou kai kapoia alla perissotero epifilaktika kai "suntiritika", ta opoia parexoun sto agaphmeno tous atomo mono ena meros tou eautou tous kai oxi oloklhro. Epeishs, uparxoun atoma ta opoia einai prokateilhmmena kai arnountai na niwsoun agaph gia logous fovou apo pono se tuxon xwrismo. Uparxoun upervolika polles kathgories atomwn oi opoies einai sxedon api8ano na katagrafoun logo thou plh8ous kai ths diaforetikothtas tous. To sigouro einai oti ola ta atoma aneksarthtws kathgorias, ephreazontai kai leitourgoun se ka8oristiko va8mo apo tous parapanw proanafer8hsantes paragontes. Einai adunato na krinoume mia erwtikh sxesh oso kai an ephxeirhmatologisoume or8a thn apopsh mas afou ta upoloipa atoma diaferoun apo emas ws pros thn apopsh tous, gia thn idia sxesh. Ostoso, panta uparxoun kapoia koina diaxronika stoixeia kritikhs mias sxeshs agaphs, opws alh8inh agaph gemath eilikrinia kai pseftikh agaph, gemath upokrisia. Panw se auta ta duo vasika stoixeia stirizontai kai 8emelionwntai oi upoloipoi xarakthrismoi, eite 8etikoi eite arnhtikoi, mias sxeshs agaphs.
- Diafoterika antidroun ta atoma sthn akroash mas oti anoikoume se mia sxesh, proeipo8hke. Auto einai fusiologiko kai eksigeitai me to oti panta uparxei diaforetikothta metaksu twn atomwn mias koinwnias. Ta pragmata diaferoun omws ana thn sxesh atomou me ta upoloipa, opws paradeigmatos xarh sxeseis "aimatos", dhladh goneis-paidi kai aderfia-paidi. Ekei kuriarxei sunh8ws h prostateutikothta, se meroikes periptwseis kai h uperprostateutikothta kai spaniotera kai h apa8eia. Oi goneis panta prosexoun etsi wste to paidi tous, aneksartitou hlikias, na exei ta panta, o,ti xreiastei, alla den 8a dexontousan pote xe kamia periptwsh, na plhgw8ei to paidi tous. Ontas megaluteroi, ara kata sunepeia kai perissotero pepeirammenoi, gnwrizoun ti shmainei agaph kai oti sunepagetai sunh8ws kai me dusaresta, oxi mono me euarista sunais8hmata, opws gia paradeigma me pono. Fovountai kai anhsixoun, kapoioes fores kai upervolika polu, gia to paidi tous. Ekeinoi to 8ewroun fusiologiko alla ta paidia sunh8ws omws oxi. Kati paromoio sumvainei kai me ta aderfia, eidika an einai megalutera, alla se kamia periptwsh se filous. Oi filoi kata kanona antidroun diaforetika panta se sugkrish me tous goneis. Sunh8ws apaitoun parapanw plhrofories kai leptomereies, prosferontai na parexoun opoiadhpote stigmh plhrofories ston filo tous kai na tou sumparasta8oun se kapoia dusaresth stigmh. na epivraveusoun h' na epikrinoun ton filo tous gia thn epilogh tou alla sigoura 8a tou sumparasta8oun me ka8e dunato tropo. Einai duskolo na elegksoume thn prwth antidrash opoioudhpote atomou, se opoia kathgoria kai an anoikei, alla sigoura mporoume na thn provlepsoume. Isws akougetai kapws duskolo, alla einai eukolo kai aplo. To mono pou xreiazetai einai na kseroume se ikanopoihtiko va8mo ton xarakthra tou atomou, opws epeishs kai thn psuxologikh katastash pou vrisketai thn stigmh pou 8a apofasisoume na tou anakoinwsoume to gegonos. Me vash autous tous duo paragontes, mporoume na provlepsoume arketa swsta thn eperxomenh antidrash tou atomou, etsi wste na proetoimastoume kai emeis psuxologika. H anakoinwsh se filous den xreiazetai ka8olou proetoimasia, afou o proorismos enos filou einai na stirizei, na voh8aei kai na katanoei ton filo tou, opws epeishs kai na ton sumvouleuei opou krinei aparaithto, opws alloste proanafer8hke.
